As I sit in a hotel room in Fayetteville, North Carolina my
mind begins to ponder why? Why am I in the middle of an argument that I
have been having on and off for about six years now? It starts with the usual “who
is that texting you?" and it ends with sex followed by more inquiries
in to my personal life. At this point I don’t know who is more stupid, me
for dealing with a person that I know I have no future with and no plans of
enjoying anything beyond sex or her for consistently trying to push a product
that I am clearly not interested in buying. I just wonder is it the role
of a man to save a woman from herself? I'm not the one getting hurt in
the situation, my feelings aren’t on the line and what I want doesn’t require
much effort to get. So why should I be the one to cut it off? If I was
doing something or someone that continuously hurt me or didn’t offer what I
wanted, I would stop doing that thing or person. It's that simple, isn’t
it?
Her favorite
saying is "don’t disrespect me" and I just sit there and think
"how can I respect you and you don’t respect yourself". You sit
here and try to convince me that I should pay 50$ for a product that I know
that with some negotiation you will give me for 30$ lol Then why in the hell
would I ever pay 50$? (Just a metaphor, she's not a prostitute) It seems as if woman
have a supreme misunderstanding of the word respect, respect is treating
something as it deserves to be treated depending on its value or worth.
With that being said, how can I disrespect something or someone that I
feel has limited value and a negotiable worth? I know how it sounds and
yes it's cold and maybe a little heartless but that doesn’t change the fact
that it is absolutely true. I can only do what I am allowed to do and you
can only expect to receive that in which you demand.
You will never
gain more if you consistently settle for less... And that goes for life,
love, and everything in between.
Ginsu...
ReplyDeleteThis is the realest I have ever heard a man put it. Unfortunately, a lot of women today do not truly have an understanding of their worth. There are numerous factors that play into this lack of understanding. Many will settle for whatever they can get because they do not feel that they deserve more. Or they fear if their standards are too high, they will end up alone. When in actuality, the right man will value and appreciate you more when you have standards and know your own personal value. Women do not understand that once they set those standards, the right man will rise up to meet them, not drag you down to what he feels comfortable with. Until we as women get to the place of knowing our own personal worth and not accepting anything less, it will continue to be a detrimental cycle. And unfortunately, if we do not get it, we will pass it to our daughters who in turn will end up in the same stupid, hurtful, less than fulfilling situations.
ReplyDeleteReading this is confirmation that there are still REAL men around who value self-respecting women; contrary to popular belief. But it all starts with us. You said it perfectly, that women get what they allow and only recieve what they demand (or don't recieve what they don't demand).