Legal Rape

So... let’s talk about child support.  A touchy subject, maybe but I swear it needs to be discussed.  This is how child support works, two people sit down either at a mediation or go to court to decide the plan of action on the issue.  Now in Virginia there is a child support work sheet that they plug in both parties income and decide who shall pay the greater percentage of this imaginary figure they have decided it takes to raise a child.  The imaginary figure grows depending on how many factors the female decides to add to the equation, now she needs no proof of these expenditures all she needs is her word... Imagine going to file your taxes and sitting down with the tax professional and discussing deductions that you have no proof of, it would never happen. 

When the female is finished adding all of her real or fake costs of providing a stable household for the child they add that to the number the courts come up with.  Now whoever makes most money between the two parents has to pay the majority of the total cost.  The trick in that situation is that when the man pays for his portion of the amount that has been set, you see the actual money. It comes out of his account or his pocket and there is documentation of the payment but there is no documentation of the portion that the female is supposed to pay.  No, you never see that amount, she can live up to her guaranteed amount or not, the man will never know.  How is this possibly fair?  I pay and you see it but she is supposed to pay and no one will ever know if she did or not.  Not only is there no record of if she paid her portion of the child support, there is also no record of what she did with the portion of support that the man pays.  Who made this system and why hasn’t anyone investigated the fairness of the proceedings?  It blows my mind and it has to be stopped, tweaked, and or modified.

If it’s not about the money, then why is it all about the money?  How is a man supposed to separate himself from the money that is being paid and his "responsibility" to be a father?  It is almost impossible.  The child support paid out may be an amount that is crippling his life style but he is supposed find a way to push that burden aside and do what’s "right"; that is much easier said than done.  Especially in those cases where having the child was a decision totally made by mother and now they feel as if they deserve payment for that decision.  How would you feel if you were being charged for service you never authorized...?  Hello Mr. /Ms. so and so, we are calling to inform you that you are required to pay 650$ a month for HBO.  What?  But I only watched that channel twice as a part of the free preview. But you did watch it, didn’t you…?  

If you have never been through it then you don’t understand how castrating this process has become but for all of the guys out there that share in my pain I know you understand...