Sorry for the wait

Don’t you just love great beginnings?  I think we all do, those initial moments when you first meet someone and there is that quiet thought that enters your mind that says "I like them"...  You don’t know much more than that and you don’t really care to.  You are more than happy to live in that feeling of possibility and discovery.  The point where your conversations are genuine and unforced, there is no frequency about your actions; everything is new and fresh and happening for the first time. 

My boys and I at first glance would not seem to be the sort that would get these fluffy feeling when first meeting a girl but we all do lol. I remember having long conversation about that great build up that leads to finding out what this person is really about.  We'd go on and on about how we like this persons mannerisms and how they talked or looked or dressed, we would say thing like "we love their free spirit" or "she knows how to be a woman".   All of these great things would be presented about this special new someone that we had become enamored with and then something would happen to destroy all of our fluffy feeling about this person, all of the delusions of grandeur would dissipate after this one act... SEX.  

Ladies, if you really want to know how a guy feels about you, have sex with him...  How we act in those moments after sex is how we truly feel, there is no fake engaging conversation just to seem interested or interesting; there are no compliments on your hair or great dialogue about music or politics, nope.  If we don’t mind you laying up under us or staying over after we have sex then we genuinely like you but if we conveniently find something to do or happen to leave the room for an extended period of time or even fake go to work lol then the chances are we don’t.  Our intentions can be judged in that thirty minute window of post sex activities and only in that thirty minute window because any time after that will only show you how we act when we are waiting to have sex.

The longest and most serious relationships I’ve been a part of were with woman whom I had sex with pretty quickly.  Now I’m not saying that because they didn’t make me wait we had a great relationship, I’m saying that because sex was out of the way they got to experience who I really was without the facade of the waiting game.  I didn’t act a certain way or engage in things that I knew I wasn’t interested in just for that sake of having a good date, no, what we did were things I really wanted to do because I really wanted to do them.  Who they really were got to meet who I really was early enough where there was motivation to build something special and real, without the need for representatives or ulterior motives.  Anything a man does  before sex is tainted it’s sad but true and I apologize for myself, my boys, and all mankind but this is the way we are wired and If a man tells you differently they are either lying or waiting to have sex...