It continues to baffle my mind how women and men think so differently about any number of subjects. We don’t just have a difference of opinion; we differ on the fundamental thought process. How can rational thought come from something that is built on emotion? Emotion is not rational, emotions are just feeling and feelings are not a great foundation for decision making. I really can’t understand that concept even though I was raised by a woman and grew up in a family dominated by women. At some point you have to decide between what you feel and what’s real.
Every emotional decision I have ever made has turned out to be a bad one. To let emotion out way logic, sense, and reasoning is just crazy... And then to not want to be held accountable for those actions is even crazier. You choose to do something and then when it’s time to face the consequences of that choice you act like the world is coming down on you. You feel you can’t be held accountable because you were just going off of how you felt at the time. Absolutely crazy. But what’s even crazier is that most women will acknowledge that fact but still won’t change the way they go about making those same decisions.
Right now I’m in a situation where I’m being held accountable for a decision that ultimately wasn’t mine to make. I’m sure that decision came from the heart and it felt right at the time, but now when you’re being held accountable for your hearts decision you look to others to ease the load. But what makes me most upset is that I can’t talk to my family about it, they don’t understand, and it’s because they all think like her...
Accountable? You know no other more than I.
ReplyDeleteWhat a harsh Reality. I will comment on this solely based off of experience. As a woman, I know all too well about responding to situations out of emotion and not wanting to accept the consequences of my actions (accountability). Emotions are something that none of us can get away from, i.e happiness, joy, anger, sadness…are all emotions that we will continue to experience in our lifetime; however, learning how to contain these emotions and placing them in their proper perspective is the key. As I look back on my life and some of the decisions that I have made emotionally, the end result wasn’t pleasant. I am cleaning up today decisions that I have made years ago, some were out of ignorance (limited knowledge) and others were because I felt a certain way at that time. I have wasted precious time and missed out on opportunities defending what I “feel”, not wanting to accept that “I” created the mess. I used to attend a church where the pastor used to be adamant about “feelings not being real,” he used to drill that in us. Although, I could agree with him, I was not mature enough to fully understand it and apply it to my life. Now, I get it. I think back on these scriptures Proverbs 4:23….Guard your heart for out of it flows the issues of life.. Matthew 12:24 says, Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks …. Jeremiah 17:9 says “The heart is more treacherous than anything else and is desperate,” Our heart is where our emotions stem from ( the seat of our motivation), situations compel our hearts to experience all types of emotions but we must control (guard) those feelings and our responses/ actions regarding them. Everyone, men and women, are sometimes emotionally reactive, women more so than men, true indeed, but I see it as the perfect balance. I’m almost in awe of the differences and how some of the things they (men) are or can handle we (women) are not or can’t and vice versa. I am sold on the fact that God made it that way. We may not understand it but it all just works out somehow.
ReplyDeleteIf you backtrack isn't the the fact that she had an emotional choice to make a direct result (your consequence) of an "emotional" decision you made?
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